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Lately I’ve been hearing the phrase, “no regrets,” allot. Folks say it with such conviction that I think they genuinely mean it. Personally, I believe there are only two types of people who have absolutely NO regret: Sociopaths and people who have never left the house or interacted with others… at some point, the latter, may regret a wasted life.
Regret is defined as:
“a feeling of sadness, repentance, or disappointment over an occurrence or something that one has done or failed to do.”
When we experience regret we may feel remorse, sadness, guilt, shame, or self-condemnation. I have trouble believing most human beings have not experienced some form of these emotions due to choices they’ve made. Even those who live in the highest morals make less than healthy decisions. We’ve all offended or injured someone, whether intentional or not, I’m sure most of us would change a few things if we could. Maybe not pivotal things, that have made us who we are, but some of our actions.
I’m not someone with allot of regret. Yet there are things I wish I’d have done sooner or handled differently. There are unintended hurts I wish I hadn’t caused. There are losses I wish I could reverse. Such is life. We live we learn and we hope to do better.
There is no need to regret having regrets. It takes compassion to feel remorse. It takes morals to feel disappointed that we’ve fallen short of grace. When we’re out there experiencing life, we won’t always get it right. The important thing is to learn from regret and not dwell therein.
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves – regret for the past and fear of the future.” Fulton Oursler
“Make the most of your regrets; never smother your sorrow, but tend and cherish it till it comes to have a separate and integral interest. To regret deeply is to live afresh.” Henry David Thoreau