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As we enter this fresh New Year with endless potential, it’s important to decide what our futures hold. Allot of what comes our way is determined by how we meet challenges, react to negativity, and invite inspiration.
I’m not a fan of the New Year’s Resolution. If making resolutions is something you enjoy and can live up to, by all means, have at it. For me, I feel as though I’m setting myself up to fail. We can start and stop habits every day of the year. No need to start a shiny new year under pressure and feeling bad if we don’t succeed at our resolutions. That being said, I do think its good to look ahead and choose to be kind in our treatment of others as well as our-selves.
Humans are not always kind. None of us is perfect. We all have ideas of how things and people “should” be. Life became less aggravating when I gave up the notion of, “should” and worked on accepting “What is.” This is not always easy. However, when I was outraged or angry about things that “should” be, I was the only one suffering. The acid was churning in my stomach; my blood pressure was rising. Whoever or whatever had irked me, was still out there carrying on as usual. I was living with the toxins. Which, frankly, was illogical and changed nothing… except my wellbeing.
When people pass away, we often send the prayer, “May they rest in peace.” Ironically, most of us don’t choose to live in peace. Why save it for the exit? I tend to be a positive sort. Yet, when I started to look at how I responded to some instances of stress and “assholery” (made up word), I realized that I was “swallowing poison to kill my enemy.” This is beyond counterproductive and stupid. I began to stop myself and be aware of my reactions to situations and changing these reactions to positive, rather than negative.
“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi
I wish to see an abundance of peace in the world. In 2014 I am continuing to do my best to live at peace with myself and those around me. When we bring peace to a volatile situation we can, most always, ease conflict. When we bring anger, things escalate. Nothing good comes from anger. I’m not saying things don’t annoy me. Lots of things about this world could drive me crazy if I let them. I’m saying that being proactive and peaceful in my responses brings a little more, much needed, peace to the planet.
“The most valuable possession you can own is an open heart. The most powerful weapon you can be is an instrument of peace.” ~ Carlos Santana
There is so much to be learned from the examples of true men/women of peace. Nelson Mandel responded to his captivity, of 27 years, with peace. He sought positive change and brought an end to apartheid. Rosa Parks brought change in the Civil Rights Movement, by peacefully refusing to sit at the back of the bus. For more than 45 years Mother Teresa cared for the sick, dying, and poor. She guided the expansion of the
“Missionaries of Charity,” to over 600 missions around the world; peacefully bringing hope, shelter, schools, and counseling to the homeless, orphans, people living with HIV/AIDS and leprosy. Organizations such as Red Cross, World Vision, Amnesty International, Free The Children, UNICEF, etc. bring positive change through peaceful means. The list of goodness is endless. Not all of us are meant to change the world to the extent of these saintly examples. However, it is the easiest thing to be kind to another, to perceive a situation from their point of view, and react peacefully, even if you feel you’ve been disrespected or wronged. Step out of ego and into wellbeing. Go in peace and leave the toxins with their owners.
Living a peaceful life has nothing to do with ones religious beliefs (or lack there of). It has everything to do with being spiritually connected to whatever divine source you believe you are part of and realizing that we are all connected. When we leave this planet we are no longer Black/ White/ Yellow/ Red, Jew/ Christian/ Muslim/ Buddhist/etc., or Gay/ Straight/ Bi/ Trans. We are genderless, colourless, dogma-less souls that have occupied a physical shell, for a brief period of time. We are entities that came from creation and will return to it. (If you’re an atheist, don’t believe in the afterlife, and choose burial or cremation, you are also the same as everyone else: dust).
Lets work on honouring the good and bringing peace and kindness to our neighbors. Even If we don’t particularly like our neighbors, give them a smile, send them good wishes and step peacefully away from those who intentionally do harm.
“A mind at peace, a mind centered and not focused on harming others, is stronger than any physical force in the universe.”
I have found that I have to remind myself often to take a breath and carefully choose how I react to negative situations. Transformation doesn’t happen overnight. Keep your intensions positive, your thoughts at peace, don’t own the crap of others, and you will have lots of affirming change in 2014.
Happy New Year, all!