A Show Of Hands Please, To The Following Round Of Questions.
How many of you have been told: “Never walk home alone after dark.”?
How many of you have been told: “Don’t walk/run on the trail alone, not even in daylight – it is too secluded.”?
How many of you have been told: “Never meet a stranger alone. Always meet in a public place.”?
How many of you have been told: “Don’t wear that – it is too revealing.”?
How many of you have been told: “Ignore their advances. You need the job.”?
How many of you have been told: “Suck it up – it’s your word against theirs.”?
How many of you have been told: “You must have done something to get that sort of attention.”?
How many of you have been told: “You may as well keep it to yourself – Nobody is going to believe you and you will have to relive it over and over again.”?
How many of you have been asked:
“Why did you remain in contact?”
“Why did you go back?”
“Why did you try to fix it?”
“Why did you take a shower and wash away the evidence?”
“Why did you wait so long to come forward?”
“Why did you do everything wrong?”
“Why did YOU let it happen?”
How many of you have raised your hands? I can’t see you, yet I know what most of you look like: Girls & Women.
Yes. Men and boys are also victims of violence and rape. Yes. It is also apprehensible the way they are treated for being victimized. The difference is, as a rule, men and boys are not groomed by society, from childhood onward, to believe it is THEIR OWN FAULT.
Predators count on: Victim Shaming and Victim Blaming. These are the Foundations of the RAPE CULTURE we are living in.
To all of those who say:
“It was not beyond reasonable doubt.”
“The system has to be fair to everyone.”
“His life and reputation are ruined.”
“He’s paid financially.”
“Everybody knows he’s guilty.”
“Justice was served. The judicial system still works.”
I ask you this: When he RAPES again (and he will – they always do), how much comfort will she take in the fact that he has lost his money and his reputation?
How happy will she be that he was walking free and able to victimize her, as opposed to being in a cage where he belongs?
How sorry will she be that she was one of the few who believed he was innocent because he was not convicted?
How will she feel when he tells her, “Nobody is going to believe YOU,” and she knows he’s right?
I firmly believe that there is No Justice for Women and Children. Just look at the global treatment of women and children at this moment in time. I am hopeful (but not optimistic) that this will change.
How many times is TOO many times? ONE!
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